Today we are talking about wellness without the obsession.

You can grab your free 33 page workbook to go with this episode at bit.ly/wwworkbook 

This is the end goal of our work for the people that we work with. NOTE: This doesn’t mean we think that everyone needs this goal or should want this. This simply means this is our outlook and for anyone looking for a life that still has some attention to wellness but in an entirely new way with a new way of thinking - we can help!

One vital part of attaining wellness without the obsession is separating weight and wellness.

Why? Because if we still link health and weight in our minds it will be almost impossible to practice wellness while not focusing on weight which is a central pillar of wellness without the obsession.

 

There are 3 key ways you can unlink weight and wellness:

  1. Learn the science and research behind weight and health.

Much of what we were taught is not based in science. For instance, BMI, which I’m sure we all know by now is not a reliable tool to determine health, is actually completely random. The numbers that tell us we are underweight, normal weight, overweight or obese were chosen at random. There is no scientific reason for a person to be called overweight when they hit “25” on the BMI, body mass index.  Not to mention the many other issues such as :

  • BMI was not created by a medical professional and the mathematician who did create it said that it was not meant to calculate the health of individuals
  • The BMI was only created with white men as the subjects
  • BMI does not consider fat, muscle, bone density etc

There are a lot of other studies that show that the assumptions we have societally that those in larger bodies don’t live as long as those in smaller bodies is not true! There’s a lot to unpack on the scientific side of things but we will share more on how you can learn a bit more about this shortly.

 

2. Diving into your personal wellness and how it is affected by the focus on weight. We are our own greatest teachers if we actually sit with these ideas for a while and see how it relates to our own personal experience.

Take the time to contemplate - how has my focus on weight affected me? What actions do I take when I try to pursue weight loss? What results does this give me?

If I have been focusing on weight for 20 years and it hasn’t given me what I want - should I start thinking maybe the focus on weight is the problem not ME?!?

Wellness without the obsession has to start in your imagination, because it’s  likely no one in your life lives this way. 

So imagine -- what would your life look like without the thought I need to lose weight/ can’t gain weight? If thoughts about weight weren’t possible. What would happen? 

Think about it. How would you move your body? What would you want to eat? How would you want to feel? What would your thoughts be about?

This is something we want you to give real time and energy to, and we’ll share how you can do this at the end of the episode. 

 

3. Lastly - this may seem like a separate topic but identifying beauty from health and weight is also an important part of the process because our society has tangled the 3 concepts so tightly that if we cannot see which is which, it can be difficult to move forward.

The way we look has been tied to health for so long so it makes sense that we want to keep appearing a certain way so people see us as healthy, as trying our best and not judge us. But this keeps us stuck!

This doesn’t mean we need to stop caring what we look like, that is highly unlikely to happen in the society we live in, and honestly that’s fine.

Certain elements of “beauty” can be enjoyable, so how do we decide what elements of beauty are appropriate for ourselves and what fits into our lives of wellness without the obsession?

There is never any judgement here - it is solely about having a deeper look at what is serving you and what might not be.

For instance, is makeup and hair care enjoyable for you? Lovely!

Is going under the knife ever okay?

How can we know if something is being used to heal wounds (body image etc) or if it is adding joy into our lives?

We advise you to do a  cost/ benefit analysis.

The cost of a beauty treatment of product includes:

Time

Money

Risks

The message it sends and the message it feeds into

Bypass for emotional work?

The benefits are whatever you perceive the treatment to give you: time to yourself, feels good, like the way it looks etc.

It’s then YOUR personal choice to decide if something is worth it or not. 

We invite you to go through these 3 areas of separating weight and wellness in our new free 33 page workbook called Separating Weight and Wellness. It’ll walk you through this untangling in detail so you can give it the time and attention it deserves. Remember this is necessary in order to get to that goal of wellness without the obsession. You can grab your workbook at bit.ly/wwworkbook 

You can always send us a DM on Instagram or email us at hello@thebodylovesociety.com if you need more support, or want to share how it goes for you! We love to interact with you and help you in every way we can.

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are talking about a phrase that we learned from Bri Campos, a body image educator/ LPC  - follow her on Instagram at @bodyimagewithbri 

So what does it mean to “sit in the suck”?

Well - you may have noticed that this UnDiet work (intuitive eating, body image, body acceptance/ trust) can be hard. It is hard! 

A few things that may happen when it gets hard… 

  1. When things get hard it can be really easy for humans to do anything to get rid of the uncomfortable feelings - to turn to coping mechanisms that may feel like distractions instead of processing and healing the emotions. 
  2. Another thing that happens - no shame or blame - but when it gets hard our brains can start to tell us this UnDiet work isn’t safe, it doesn’t work, etc and all the catastrophic feelings come flooding in - someone may consider going back on a diet because they need the control (false control that is). 
  3. There could be a bad body image day - where you are looking in the mirror and you just feel defeated, angry, sad, etc … you aren’t thinking “I need to go on a diet again” but you dive right into trying to push the feelings away and try and reframe your thoughts - try to “just be positive.” 

Shifting your mindset, reframing, and thinking differently is liberating AND here’s why you may feel like it never is getting easier no matter how much reframing you do …

You aren’t acknowledging the “suck.” --- You quickly either go to “this IE/ UnDieting doesn’t work, might as well diet”....Find yourself in a spiral of catastrophic thoughts that ruin your entire day and berate yourself for everything or on the other end --- you avoid the hard feelings, say “it’s fine”  - push it away and don’t think about it - you say something positive and it’s done. But it doesn’t ever feel very good. 

When it feels so hard - there is so much power in sitting in the suck. You don’t have to do anything. You don’t have to force yourself to reframe your thoughts (just yet), you don’t have to be anything or do anything, expect anything from yourself other than allowing yourself to acknowledge that this work is hard - to validate all these feelings you are having and just be okay with sitting with these hard feelings. You don’t need to push them away or pretend like it’s all good - you don’t need to cover it up with mindless scrolling on Instagram etc...

It’s about sitting in it, feeling it, and just saying gosh this is hard, this isn’t fair, I hate this, I hate these feelings, and that’s okay. It’s okay to feel it all without having an agenda to dive into “fixing” it.

The next time you are feeling one of these really hard moments - allow it. Take a moment to be still and breathe. 

Here are somethings you can say to yourself: 

-This is so hard. And it’s okay that it’s hard. There is nothing I need to do or fix.

-This work is hard, these feelings are hard. And that’s okay. 

-I’m so uncomfortable with these feelings. And that’s okay. 

-I have no idea what’s going to happen. I feel scared. And that’s okay. 

-I’m anxious when I feel like I don’t have control. And that’s okay. 

-I feel X (insert anything you resonate with). And that’s okay. 

Say anything that allows you to feel like it’s okay to feel what you are feeling without an action you need to take to fix it.

YES. It’s so important to also process feelings, take action, and heal/ transform - and that is very much a part of this work. 

And don’t skip over “sitting in the suck” - it’s part of the process, it’s part of the healing, it’s part of the transformation. 

Reminder, there is no timeline and you get to choose if you want to do any of this - you choose your process. Who says you HAVE to heal and be free around food and your body? You don’t have to do anything if you don’t want to - 

You have the power in how you take on The UnDiet. You can feel empowered to sit in the suck, and feel empowered to move out of the suck and onto the processing, healing, and transformation - it’s messy work and it’s beautiful work and however you do the work is perfect and normal because everyone is different and has their own process. 

We commend you for your courage to take on UnDieting - we know it’s not easy but we can absolutely say it’s worth it… we love sharing all the tips, tools, and mindset shifts and felt it was so important to also share the message that sometimes sitting in the suck is the best thing you can do for yourself. 

Before we go we’d like to share a free resource with you - it’s a 5 day Weight Gain WTF Video Series that helps you start to break down the fears you have around weight gain and how to move forward without this fear holding you back - you can get it at bit.ly/weightgainwtf

If it’s that time to sit in the suck - do that first and save this video series for when you feel ready to process! 

Until next week! 

Welcome to How to Love Your Body. On today’s episode we are going to be talking about how the fear of weight gain doesn’t actually control your weight (lose, gain, stay the same)- even though it feels like it does. 

When we say, fear of weight gain, what do we mean? 

It means: 

-You are constantly aware of what food you are eating. If it’s “healthy” or “unhealthy.”

-You always feel like eating food has a reward or consequence - if you eat nutritious healthy “light” food, you will be rewarded with weight loss (or at least not weight gain). If you eat unhealthy processed food / desserts / carbs etc then you face the consequence of weight gain. 

-You make choices with the diet brain instead of your intuition. 

-Even if you allow the food and you physically are eating it - you have mental restriction, meaning you have lots of shame, judgement, guilt, and a feeling that you shouldn’t be eating what you’re eating. 

-There’s an undertone of fear, self hate, judgement, shame rather than love/ peace, self respect/ acceptance, and trust surrounding food and your body. 

So - what does this fear actually do? 

It blocks you from truly getting to a place of peace and freedom around food and your body. It blocks your intuition. 

Using your intuition is such a big part of this work in IE and UnDieting - and the fear of weight gain is standing right in the way - your intuition is just on the other side. Knocking on the door asking to get in - 

Opening the door releases the fear of weight gain and not only does your intuition flood through the door so does everything else that comes along with being intuitive. 

Trust, peace, freedom, love - A LIFE. A sustainable life of wellness without the obsession can finally be cultivated. 

What does releasing this fear of weight gain mean? 

It doesn’t automatically mean that you will gain soooo much weight just because you release this fear - reminder that fearing weight gain doesn’t actually control your weight as we mentioned above. 

Question - has fearing weight gain resulted in weight loss that you’ve kept off in a sustainable way? Mostly likely it hasn’t because diets don’t work - and we can’t control our bodies as much as we want to . 

If you answered - yes, I have lost weight and kept it off in a sustainable way - we would like to ask how your mind feels? How’s your mental health? Do you feel free and at peace around food? Mostly likely no. 

Don’t you want to live in a world where you can have it all - where you can feel good physically and mentally???

This is possible. 

And it starts with releasing this fear of weight gain. 

Letting go of the fear of weight gain does not mean you now do not care about your health. It's actually very much the opposite. Releasing this fear will allow you to be much more in tune with your body therefore you'll be able to listen to what it needs/wants. Your mind will be clear and at peace and your body will finally get the focus that it deserves - to feel good.

The diet industry has taught you to fear weight gain - why? Because they deeply care about your physical and emotional wellbeing - JK, EYE ROLL, BS. 

They want you to live in constant fear so you can be a lifelong customer. They want your money. The Diet Industry is one big scam. And we all bought in. US TOO. 

Annddddd now we are choosing to buy out. And you can too- you most likely have already bought out because you are listening to this podcast - AMAZING. 

And now it’s about taking another step further into buying out of diet culture and letting go of this fear so you can truly start living. You can eat with peace, joy, pleasure, content, clarity --- all the things that feel oh so good. 

By the way - WE deeply care about your mental and emotional wellbeing. We are here to support you in all the ways we know how. 

This is why we created the 21 Day Weight Gain WTF Intensive - why did we call it this? It’s validating all the WTF’s that come along with un doing all the toxicity - because honestly diet culture is one big WTF. 

This intensive will help you dig much deeper into your mindset behind all the fear. You’ll create new beliefs, coping strategies, and even debunk some really ridiculous myths regarding weight. 

It’s a rich intensive! We wanted to make it as accessible and affordable as possible. 

You get all 21 days for $21. 

You can go to bit.ly/21daywtf to learn more and get started on Day 1. 

This is an email series - meaning you get 1 email a day for 21 days but if you aren’t ready to begin just yet but still want to do the course - we recommend you save all the emails in a file and you can dive into them when you’re ready. 

The Intensive closes Tuesday, September 8th at midnight - which is TODAY. So if you are listening and are ready to get started go to bit.ly/21daywtf. We’re excited to hang out with you for the next 21 days. 

Lastly, if you have any questions email us at hello@thebodylovesociety.com or you can send up a DM on IG - we are @thebodylovesociety. 

Welcome to this week’s episode of How to Love Your Body, today we are talking about the common question we get:

“But what if someone REALLY NEEDS to lose weight? What if someone is xx lbs, and they HAVE to lose weight?”

NOTE: This is a fat phobic question but it is important to address why this question is so damaging in many ways for all.

This question, or a version of it comes up a surprising amount. 

It rears its head when we share that we advise people to not pursue weight loss (regardless of body size), that intuitive eating involves allowing all food, unconditional permission to eat and getting rid of all food rules.

This is a MAJOR paradigm shift from diet culture which almost all of us came from. To hear the opposite of what we were always taught makes a lot of people uncomfortable EVEN if they KNOW dieting doesnt work. Theyve been at it for 20 or 30 years and it hasnt worked, its caused a lot of damage mentally and physically… but dont pursue weight loss at all? That seems crazy, certainly this cannot be the answer for everyone.

"So what about someone who NEEDS to lose weight or they’ll die?????"

Here’s the problem with this question:

1. It reveals a lot about our culture’s obsession with worrying about others people’s weight and health. Whether this is a fictional example or a real person in your life it’s frankly none of your business. Do not use other people as examples to question this work. Keep it about YOU, and your health.

2. It keeps a wall between you and the work. If you put a faceless and exaggerated example in between you and undieting it lets you remain cold and cruel to those in larger bodies. It makes it impersonal and this is what is wrong with so much of our culture’s obsession with thinness and fear of weight gain - not seeing that real people are involved. It remains cruel and judgemental. 

3. It takes the nuance out of undieting. When someone provides a fake example of who it wouldnt work for there is no room for exploration to see what’s really going on because it isnt real! People are layered and complex and one belief system or behavior affects another. This work can only effectively be applied to real people, it takes some rooting around in your beliefs, behaviours and relationship with food and your body to figure out what can shift to become an intuitive eater and increase positive body image. The joy of this work is it is SO personal and will be different for each person so it doesn’t really work to apply to a fake example. 

4. Making your question about someone else (real or made up) lets you never take undieting seriously. When you solely relate everything you learn to YOUR personal situation you can think more deeply about if it seems like something that suits you at this time in your journey.

For instance: Hmm she says restriction causes binge eating and thinking about food all day … does that apply to me? Have I seen that to be true in my life?

They said that if I allow all food, I will actually obsess over food less and I can just eat normally. Does that make sense to me? Was I ever that way as a child before I started thinking of food in dieting terms?

And so on….

 

We say that you can decide if this seems like a good fit for you in this stage of your journey because even though UnDieting and Intuitive Eating is absolutely suitable for everyone at anytime (It’s our natural state!), we understand that not everyone is ready for it at any time.

Ourselves for instance, if someone had told me about intuitive eating and undieting 10 years ago I would have thought it was so ridiculous. I am so GOOD, look how hard I work. Thats just lazy….all while deeply deeply stuck in the restrict binge cycle and absolutely food and body misery. But I couldnt see clearly and I wasnt ready for it.

As you move forward learning about this work, when you hear something that is new or makes you uncomfortable think, how does this apply to me? How do I see this for myself? Is that something I want to work on or do even if its scary? Am I ready for this even if im nervous about it?

Those are the only questions you ever need to ask.

If this makes sense but the one big question still keeps popping up for you -- BUT WHAT IF I GAIN WEIGHT?, we would love to support you!

Fear of weight gain is the #1 thing that stops women from becoming undieters and intuitive eaters.

Our 21 day weight gain wtf intensive is the best place to begin moving past this fear. You can learn more about the intensive at www.thebodylovesociety.com/21daywtf

We can often feel like if we allow ourselves to let go of the fear of weight gain, this will cause us to gain weight. The fear can feel like control but let us remind you, it’s not. 

Fear will not motivate you to exercise more or eat less. It may in the short term but it cannot fuel a long term and sustained way of living that is truly self honoring. Fear is what creates the all or nothing cycles we get stuck in. 

When you let go of the fear of weight gain you let self love in. How you treat your body is then fuelled by love, enjoyment and feeling good instead of terror, fear and self hate.  

If you have fear over releasing your fear of weight gain right now we urge you to trust the process and take this leap. Living your life and taking care of your body because you love it, not because you fear weight gain, can change everything.

PS – We KNOW that fat phobia in our diet obsessed society is a HUGE part of many being afraid of weight gain. This is a very real part of this work. But letting go of the fear (or at least lessening the fear) can only help everyone. Once the fear is out of the forefront we can then move forward and make our choices with a clear mind and heart. 

This Intensive will not ignore the very REAL obstacles in being fat in our society. It will also allow you to find some peace regardless of these obstacles (while we all work to demolish them!)

Again you can get more information at thebodylovesociety.com/21daywtf

Love, Lauren and Jenna

August 25, 2020

Ep 121 - Diet Brain

Welcome to How to Love Your Body on today’s episode we are talking about DIET BRAIN.

This is the effect that being a dieter has on our brains and our thinking.

If you already know that your thinking and mindset has been affected by dieting before we even get into it you're welcome to grab our 5 day UnDiet Mindset Boost at bit.ly/undietboost

Let’s get started

A little biology note before we get to our main focus, mindset and ways of thinking.

When we restrict calories from our brain this leads to rigid thinking, creative thinking goes out the window and we cannot go with flow very easily. This makes so much sense to me because whenever I was dieting it was always so rigid, and honestly never very logical. Eat a piece of chocolate and screw it, may as well eat the whole cupboard. And I did this so often, how does any of that make any sense? I couldn’t be flexible with my thinking or see things that were staring me in the face - like I should not be obsessing over food this much and it isn't healthy to be dieting all week just to binge on the weekends.

So know that when you’re dieting it biologically is going to affect the way you think - so you can’t always trust your dieting brain to give you the best answers which is one big reason that we love to support people in this work because with a dieting brain it can be really challenging to find your way out on your own.

But let’s move onto how dieting affects our mindset and thinking around food and body.

DIET BRAIN: Preoccupation with food - thinking of what you’re eating next, calories tallying up in your head, feeling almost out of control or gluttonous because you always think about food

The natural state: Think about food when you’re hungry, enjoy food and be excited for a great meal but its not the focus of your thoughts

DIET BRAIN: Picking apart your body, body checking, weighing yourself regularly, being focused on how clothes fit

The natural state: Your body’s value doesn't come from the way it looks, naturally we would focus on how we feel, weight would be a non issue (and it WAS until insurance companies decided that weight was a nice easy measurement of health and doctors took that on too). If clothes were too tight or didn’t feel good we would get new ones.

 

DIET BRAIN: All or nothing thinking - being perfect, following a plan or SCREW IT! Going all out, last supper effect.

 

Natural state: Ebb and flow, naturally eat more some days and less on others, honor cravings in a way that feels good and is satisfying.

 

The good news is we can ALL get back to this natural state.

It just takes some mindset work and a new way to relate to food and our bodies.

We welcome you into our free 5 day UnDiet Mindset Boost - this is a 5 day series that will give you small but important daily mindset activities to begin making this shift back into your natural state of thinking.

You can grab the mindset boost at bit.ly/undietboost

August 18, 2020

Ep 120 - It’s Okay If …

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are going to be sharing and validating you in ways diet culture never did and never will. 

It’s called the It’s Okay If episode! Which basically means we are going to be going over all the things it’s okay to be doing as an UnDieter. To normalize all things! 

We have found that when we post something on Instagram about it being okay doing things that haven’t always been accepted in the diet world we get the most interaction and engagement … people just want to know that they can do things without judgment, guilt, and shame. 

It’s okay if …. 

 

  • You ate the whole thing and they ate half
  • You ate another slice of pizza and they didn’t 
  • You ate a snack and they didn’t 
  • You ordered the side of fries and they ordered the side salad 
  • You ate dessert and they passed on dessert 
  • You are hungry and they aren’t 
  •  
  • You aren’t moving your body as much as you’d like 
  • Stress eating 
  • Eating out of boredom 
  • Comfort eating 
  • Snacking all day long 
  • Having challenging body image thoughts 

 

Whatever you are doing - IT’S OKAY! 

Being an UnDieter means that no matter what is going on with food, movement, and body image it’s A-Okay because there’s an ebb and flow to this life …. 

Sometimes we’re gonna get uncomfortably full, sometimes we just don’t have the time to move our bodies because it’s not our top priority (because there are a million other things to do in life that just may take priority!) , sometimes we aren’t going to like our bodies, sometimes we just don’t feel good in our bodies - it’s all okay!! 

And sometimes we eat an amount that feels good, we move our bodies more often, we actually feel neutral / like our body that day, we may feel really good in our body.

Since there is an ebb and flow, UnDieting may look different for every single person on the planet - there is no way you could ever compare yourself to someone else because our body signals do different things on different days. We all have different lives too - so we all are working under the circumstances we have …. 

Someone may have more time right now to move their body and eat in ways that feel good - someone may need to eat whatever they can put in their mouths and don’t have time this week to move a muscle? 

Someone may be really hungry today and someone may not.

Someone may be craving pizza tonight and someone may be craving salad and someone may be crazing pizza and a salad… It’s all okay! 

Each day, each week, each month and so on may look different for you (and for anyone who is an UnDieter).

And that’s the point! This is why it’s sustainable - because we just live our lives, listen to our body signals and do the best we can in the situation/ circumstance we’re living in. 

You may have kids and you barely have time to make a nice meal for yourself so you’re eating whatever you can - maybe even the kids left overs. Maybe your only movement is chasing after the toddler or going on a walk with the stroller - That’s okay! One day your kids will be grown up and you will have more time to yourself which means you can prepare meals you really love that you can put more time into -- maybe finding new ways to move that you love because you’ll have more time. 

Do you see how life is always evolving and changing so whatever is going on in your present day may not be what is going on tomorrow or the next - same goes for you hunger signals or any body signals. 

So the next time you judge yourself for anything you’re doing - remind yourself that IT’S OKAY!!! When you accept and allow “what is” - you’ll feel so much more peace and freedom. 

Keep your eyes open on Sept 1 our 21 Day Weight Gain WTF intensive is opening. If you liked our 5 day weight gain wtf video series last month you’ll love this. The free video series is also coming back on the 1st if you missed that. 

In the meantime be sure to grab your free wellness without the obsession journal at bit.ly/wwtojournal 

Welcome to How to love your body today we are talking about “healthy eating”.

Dieting says healthy eating is about what you eat and how much you eat. Period.

It says that healthy eating will make you lose weight and not gain weight.

Healthy eating is:

  • Low carb
  • Low  fat
  • Keto
  • Vegan
  • Balanced
  • “Whole foods”
  • Its measured
  • Weighed
  • Tracked
  • Prepped
  • No processed foods and no fast food!

  • Don’t forget to cut out sugar.

This is what diet culture says healthy eating is.

FIRST of all - most of these are contradictory so we can feel like we're going a little crazy when we are trying to just eat healthfully!

Secondly -- how does it affect our overall health to try to eat healthy in this way?

Often it can cause a huge lowering of mental health, it causes disordered eating, obsession with food, negatively affects our social lives and leaves us feeling defeated and shameful when the inevitable overeating or binge eating follows.

Is this HEALTHY??

We don’t think so.

But letting go of “healthy eating” leaves many people feeling like intuitive eating and UnDieting means not practicing healthy eating.

But this work is about ACTUAL healthy eating. -- the bigger picture, having a healthy relationship with food, which leads to a healthy life.

Instead of throwing the idea of being “healthy” away when doing this work, redefine your definition so you can work towards genuine healthy eating.

THIS is what healthy eating is:

Intuitive, without disordered habits, no obsession, ease and enjoyment, guilt free, flexible and non restrictive, simple and easy (not prepping for hours and freaking out when the restaurant cant put your dressing on the side), doesn’t interfere with life (not missing social events, bringing your own tupperware meals), food is a small but lovely part of life.

THIS is healthy eating and it’s something you can work towards when doing this work.

We hope this change in the definition of healthy eating will allow you to feel confident moving forward and knowing that you are still honoring your health when UnDieting.

Welcome to How to Love Your Body, today we are talking about what to do when we are worried about a friend or family member’s health issues and how we can address it.

 

You can grab your worksheet here bit.ly/undietsupport - so you can work through how to support your loved one in the best way possible. 

 

To start it off - get into your loved one’s shoes. If you had something going on with your health, what would you want from a loved one? 

 

Someone to listen to you?

Someone to support you in going to appointments?

Someone to love you unconditionally?

 

So would I.

 

But what we tend to dish out instead is:

 

Advice.

Unsolicited advice.

 

And we mean SO WELL but it’s really not what they need.

 

We have people reaching out sometimes and wondering “But I really love them shouldn’t I encourage them to eat healthier”?

 

Even if it’s not about weight - telling someone to “eat healthier” is rarely constructive. 

 

If your loved one has health issues going on that you feel are exacerbated by the way they eat, I promise their doctor has already brought it up, likely incessantly and if that hasn’t made a change, your comments won’t either.

 

We really hope that nobody tells you what to eat or how your body should look so we advise the same for US - their body, their business, our body, our business.

 

So how can you support a loved one having health troubles?

 

  • ASK them what you can do to help - don’t assume or give unsolicited advice
  • Be there to listen

 

That’s really all you need to do. 

Keep it simple and keep checking in with them if they need anything.

 

You can grab your worksheet to work through what is best to do for your loved one here bit.ly/undietsupport

 

See you next week!

5 mistakes people make going through the 5 phases

 

Welcome! This episode is brought to you by The UnDiet Academy starting August 4th 2020. Learn more about our program here - www.thebodylovesociety.com/undiet 

 

Phase 1: The Initial Exit

 

Mistake: They’re starting here and can easily get stuck in consuming INFORMATION but never moving forward with actual transformation.

Phase 2: The Diet Mentality Detox 

 

Mistake: Still having that tiny voice in the back of their head focusing on weight loss/ weight gain instead of focusing on how their body feels.

Phase 3: The Inner Self Work 

 

Mistake: Thinking they need to love themselves and their body all the time but really - starting with body neutrality (or staying here) is much more helpful etc - body love isn't about the way your body looks.

Phase 4: Embodying Intuitive Eating 

 

Mistake: Allowing all food physically but not mentally ALSO - focusing majorly on eating when you’re hungry, “mindful eating”, avoiding emotional/ boredom eating.

Phase 5: Wellness without the obsession 

 

Mistake: You second guess yourself and think that when your body asks for a salad, veggies, or something considered “healthy,” it means you’re dieting again- you second guess your intuition because you don’t believe you could actually choose the salad because you actually want it - because salad is something you forced yourself to have in the past as a dieter, you’re hesitant if you’re actually transforming your relationship with food or if it’s just a trick.

 

We would love to support you in avoiding these pit falls in The UnDiet Academy which is open right now and closes August 4th.

 

To share a little bit about the program - this is our most comprehensive program that we offer, it is 3 months of going through the 5 phases of undieting with us and a small group of women on the same journey.

 

It includes weekly video lessons and worksheets that get straight to the heart of each phase so that you aren’t wasting your time on anything unnecessary. You will receive daily coaching and support from both of us in the private facebook group for the entire program as well as being able to see the questions that other women ask -- this can often provide some HUGE ah-has from seeing the answers to questions you didnt even think of asking.

 

This group element makes this program stronger than many 1 on 1 options and its also more affordable. Win Win!

 

We are also including weekly live coaching sessions where your personal questions will be answered - you can watch live and interact or you can tune into the replay to get the answers to your questions as we move through this work together.

 

To get more info about the Academy take a look at www.thebodylovesociety.com/undiet

 

We also wanted to let you know about a coupon code we are offering for $100 off until Friday July 31st, the code is undiet2020 - use this with either the pay in full or the payment plan and get the discount instantly.

 

This week on How to Love Your Body we are diving HEAD ON to what we know is the #1 fear in UnDieting and that is weight gain.

 

It doesn’t matter when or where we ask, almost every woman’s concern and fear is weight gain or another body composition worry which is all the same thing in the end.

 

Before we get into our conversation today we want to share with you a resource we created to DEEP DIVE into this fear called the “Weight Gain WTF” video series. The series begins Monday July 27th so be sure to sign up before then to receive all 5 videos. This series is only happening July 27th - July 31st 2020. Go to bit.ly/weightgainwtf

 

As we talk about the fear of weight gain you may be thinking YES this is the biggest thing holding me back OR you might be thinking no that’s not my biggest fear it’s actually:

  • Eating too much
  • Never stop eating
  • Being unhealthy

 

We get that, those are other fears that people have but at the root, these fears are based on weight as well.

 

Here’s why:

 

Any food fear is really about what we believe food DOES to our body. Really be honest with yourself right now - if you do have a food fear, eating fear - would you be worried about food at all if it never affected the way your body looks?

 

We both know the answer is no. :)

 

As for the health concern - there may be the rare person who has a medical issue that they are genuinely worried about when it comes to letting go of food rules etc BUT contemplate this as well - if your internal health remains intact but you gain weight is that 100% good with you?

 

We find when people are concerned about food or “health” it usually equals a weight concern.

 

But here’s the thing - that is SO NORMAL and expected.

The root of dieting is a weight obsession - an obsession with losing it and an obsession with avoiding gaining it, so when you’ve come from that line of thinking for decades OF COURSE that is going to be the main concern.

 

It’s not vanity, it’s not self centered - it’s what we’ve been taught. That weight loss equals success, beauty and acceptance and weight gain equals shame, embarrassment and failure. So YES we are going to be preoccupied with our weight.

 

But it’s time for this to end. The fear of weight gain has run our lives for way too long.

 

It affects everything - the way we eat, exercise, socialize, our relationships, careers - everything!

 

Especially as women we have been so distracted in changing our bodies its taken vital time and energy away from us to be able to change the world!

 

And this truly is a societal issue that needs healing - and that healing starts with us individually finding peace in our bodies and at whatever weight our bodies want to be.

 

We know it might seem like your healing wont make a difference in this world but it will. Imagine if 50% of women healed their relationship with weight and their bodies. Imagine the industries that would change over night - pretty much anything that is sold to women to “fix” them would have to rework how they do business. Think: diet pills, diet programs, WW, Myfitnesspal app, cellulite creams and even makeup. All of these things are developed and sold to cure an insecurity that we can heal from!

 

YOU will make a difference in our world by healing so this isn't just about you anymore, being at peace in your body will affect your children, mother, friends and loved ones in an impactful way. 

 

We hope this gives you inspiration to PUSH THROUGH the fear and actively work on healing it so you can finally move on with your life and begin experiencing wellness without the obsession.

To push through the fear be sure to grab our 5 day Weight Gain WTF video series starting Monday July 27th. Go to bit.ly/weightgainwtf

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